Fascinating topic! Many authors are now writing about the role of childhood trauma on who we become as adult people. My new understanding is now that “ trauma is not so much “an event that happened to us” but rather ‘what we allowed the experiences to do inside us’) I appreciate you focusing on this today! Thanks & happy holidays!🎄
That's a good way to put it. I chalked it up to the childhood thing of keeping score. Where is that going? Then I just chalked it up to being the more forgiving person, but then one day I realized there are some times where you do need to stand up for yourself. Lately I think we all notice the person who gets defensive about things without even being asked, and we're all like, "whoa!" (What did they allow inside there.) So maybe it'd be even better to combine both and think to myself. Am I comfortable wearing this on my sleeve for all those watching?
I agree with you. Sometimes standing up for ourselves is the right response, and other times it's letting go. Wisdom is knowing which is most appropriate. In general, I see us moving from blind reactivity to wakeful responsiveness. Truly a transformative practice.
I'm grateful for your words, and I'm glad you liked the article and topic. I'm not an expert on trauma, and I'm learning the same as you. What little I know, it seems perception plays a large role in what is allowed in. I believed my parents were perfect, so presumably most messages came in. However, my partner decided at age 8 that her parents were "crazy" and stopped listening to them. Happy holidays to you too!
Fascinating topic! Many authors are now writing about the role of childhood trauma on who we become as adult people. My new understanding is now that “ trauma is not so much “an event that happened to us” but rather ‘what we allowed the experiences to do inside us’) I appreciate you focusing on this today! Thanks & happy holidays!🎄
That's a good way to put it. I chalked it up to the childhood thing of keeping score. Where is that going? Then I just chalked it up to being the more forgiving person, but then one day I realized there are some times where you do need to stand up for yourself. Lately I think we all notice the person who gets defensive about things without even being asked, and we're all like, "whoa!" (What did they allow inside there.) So maybe it'd be even better to combine both and think to myself. Am I comfortable wearing this on my sleeve for all those watching?
I agree with you. Sometimes standing up for ourselves is the right response, and other times it's letting go. Wisdom is knowing which is most appropriate. In general, I see us moving from blind reactivity to wakeful responsiveness. Truly a transformative practice.
I'm grateful for your words, and I'm glad you liked the article and topic. I'm not an expert on trauma, and I'm learning the same as you. What little I know, it seems perception plays a large role in what is allowed in. I believed my parents were perfect, so presumably most messages came in. However, my partner decided at age 8 that her parents were "crazy" and stopped listening to them. Happy holidays to you too!