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Mike Datz's avatar

Love it. There's on old British sitcom called Keeping Up Appearances. Finds humor in exactly this premise. The main characters' surname is Bucket, pronounced bouquet. Next level effort to project sophistication. Thanks Ryan.

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S. Johnson's avatar

Thank you for this piece, Ryan. It spoke to me in many ways, as "appearances" are something I have spent considerable time reinforcing in my life, including my clothes, shoes, car, home, and even work. Trying to let go of appearances and stop caring what others think is difficult because I constructed my actions to gain their validation. Alas, my experience is that relief comes by working on the inside (cleaning out the drawers) and learning to love yourself. For me, the first step was finding ways to silence the inner critic (not easy!). I use affirmations and a daily journal to remind me of my worth and contemplate my journey. I make choices in my life that affirm my values. I have yet to realize the holy grail of not caring what others think of me, but the importance has dropped significantly, and it ranks well behind how I feel about myself. Progress, not perfection!

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