The dance of perfectionism and shame
My expectations father because of how I expect people to act.
Like asking for complete adherence to my mind.
Anyway, thanks for the post. Maybe I can be one of the people you coach?
Great stories and insights, Ryan. This really made me think and question some tendencies. Thanks for writing this.
So glad you commented, Gloria. It's great to hear that the connection between shame and perfectionism has also spurred reflection for you. Reading about this in Brené Brown's Atlas of the Heart (https://www.ryandelaney.co/book-notes/atlas-of-the-heart-summary) was eye-opening. And yes, there can never be too much compassion - for self or others. Appreciate you. :)
It feels good to know the story and ideas sparked self-reflection, Hassaan. I appreciate you sharing this.
Another great post, Ryan. Thanks for shining a light on the connection between shame and perfectionism. It has really spurred some reflection. And I always appreciate any reminder to release expectations and allow more compassion for myself and others. Thank you. :)