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Alexander Lovell, PhD's avatar

It's counter-intuitive, isn't it? We're often taught to avoid conflict, to keep the peace at all costs. Yet, your essay makes a compelling case for the idea that "conflict is everyday," and that embracing it (and repairing it) can actually lead to greater connection. It’s a powerful, unconventional perspective. Instead of seeing arguments or disagreements as signs of a broken relationship, what if we started viewing them as necessary friction, the very grit that allows relationships to polish and strengthen?

Your example of your stepdaughter speaking up and your subsequent apology beautifully illustrates how authentic engagement, even in conflict, can build trust and deepen understanding. It moves beyond the superficial harmony to a more robust, honest connection. It's a powerful reminder that true intimacy often requires a willingness to navigate discomfort together.

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Adrienne Webster's avatar

I love this. It’s important to model healthy behaviors for our kids and acknowledging when we don’t handle something well in the moment is part of that.

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