I love hearing from your first-hand experience, Spenser. I know exactly what you're talking about and share your sentiment. It's funny how expectations come true sometimes and not others. Something I alluded to in today's article about our inability to accurately predict future feelings.
Did you always know you were such a talented writer? Dr.🐻 wrote a tweet yesterday about how he used to be a master-debater. It's getting a lot of laughs. 😅☺💙
You're tapping into something special; energy, talent, fluidity, rhythm, i'm not sure exactly what to call it, maybe being in some sort of zone. your words just flow along very beautifully, don't over think it, just let it happen and carry you along. Could you mention very briefly, what your breath work is like when you are meditating. I tend to think about how I'm breathing when I meditate, I'd like it to be more automatic and authentic. No rush for an answer, just when you have a few minutes to jot something down. I'm happy our paths crossed.
Wow, feels so good to hear. Thank you. This kind of writing is what I aspire to.
I like starting a meditation session with three 4-7-8 breaths (4 sec inhale, 7 hold, 8 sec exhale). One of my meditation practices is to follow the breath in and out, whether in the abdomen or at the nostrils. I don't think about the breath, per se, but rather use it to anchor my attention. Feel free to email me with additional questions.
I love your friend's tool, "Living from the death of the experience" and the phrase even more, I might use this as my snapback to reality. I had a great interview yesterday with the position I'm most interested in out of them, but I started to crack near the end lose my cool, calm collectedness and get excited. Had me thinking again all morning about the last job I had ended really badly and it was perfect, had everything I wanted, I thought the people were all great, until it wasn't. I keep having the exact same thing as your friend had with the pretty women. I keep realizing every time I'm excited and so into a new job or a new woman, or a new anything. I don't know if I smother it or what, but my only resolve is to continue to try to train myself to not be excited, which I sitll don't know if it is possible. I'm not really a fatalist but when I look back, all the long lasting things in my life, I usually always felt "meh" about. Hah! Weird. I'm going to try your friend's phrase in my head, failing that I think I'll put a rubber band on my wrist and snap it everytime I get too excited about something from now on.
I know disappointment. It sounds like the excitement may be related to expectations, or even fantasy, and disappointment when reality doesn't live up to them. I find clinging to anything, whether a job, a woman, or sunny weather, causes sorrow. But when I don't cling, I'm free. My friend's "Pain!" is a way of releasing grasping.
I really liked living from the death of the experience. I wrote a comment, I don't know where it is. It was very late when I thought I posted it. Just listened to the tape of Dr. 🐻's talk with Amy. He mentioned you, said he mIght start a men's group online.
Really enjoyed reading this, Ryan. I will reread and put key points in my journal. You are a very good writer, which I believe in most cases, is a gift one is born with. I had some co-workers who were constant worriers, I refused to be drawn into their webs of worry. Whenever I was faced with an important decision, I always asked myself "what is the worst that could happen". And guess what....."the worst" NEVER happened! ☺😅💙
Beautiful post. There's so many times I think I want something and when I am experiencing it, it isn't as glorious as I thought.
Conversely, though, there's plenty of moments where I don't expect to "get" anything and those interactions turn out to be highlights of my day.
I love hearing from your first-hand experience, Spenser. I know exactly what you're talking about and share your sentiment. It's funny how expectations come true sometimes and not others. Something I alluded to in today's article about our inability to accurately predict future feelings.
Did you always know you were such a talented writer? Dr.🐻 wrote a tweet yesterday about how he used to be a master-debater. It's getting a lot of laughs. 😅☺💙
I've never thought of myself as a talented writer. I just work hard at it. My perception is that I will always be aspiring to be a "great" writer.
You're tapping into something special; energy, talent, fluidity, rhythm, i'm not sure exactly what to call it, maybe being in some sort of zone. your words just flow along very beautifully, don't over think it, just let it happen and carry you along. Could you mention very briefly, what your breath work is like when you are meditating. I tend to think about how I'm breathing when I meditate, I'd like it to be more automatic and authentic. No rush for an answer, just when you have a few minutes to jot something down. I'm happy our paths crossed.
Wow, feels so good to hear. Thank you. This kind of writing is what I aspire to.
I like starting a meditation session with three 4-7-8 breaths (4 sec inhale, 7 hold, 8 sec exhale). One of my meditation practices is to follow the breath in and out, whether in the abdomen or at the nostrils. I don't think about the breath, per se, but rather use it to anchor my attention. Feel free to email me with additional questions.
I love your friend's tool, "Living from the death of the experience" and the phrase even more, I might use this as my snapback to reality. I had a great interview yesterday with the position I'm most interested in out of them, but I started to crack near the end lose my cool, calm collectedness and get excited. Had me thinking again all morning about the last job I had ended really badly and it was perfect, had everything I wanted, I thought the people were all great, until it wasn't. I keep having the exact same thing as your friend had with the pretty women. I keep realizing every time I'm excited and so into a new job or a new woman, or a new anything. I don't know if I smother it or what, but my only resolve is to continue to try to train myself to not be excited, which I sitll don't know if it is possible. I'm not really a fatalist but when I look back, all the long lasting things in my life, I usually always felt "meh" about. Hah! Weird. I'm going to try your friend's phrase in my head, failing that I think I'll put a rubber band on my wrist and snap it everytime I get too excited about something from now on.
I know disappointment. It sounds like the excitement may be related to expectations, or even fantasy, and disappointment when reality doesn't live up to them. I find clinging to anything, whether a job, a woman, or sunny weather, causes sorrow. But when I don't cling, I'm free. My friend's "Pain!" is a way of releasing grasping.
Enjoyed this, Ryan. Thanks!
Feels good to hear, Daryl. Appreciate you letting me know.
I just wrote a comment, hope you received it.
Comment here or elsewhere?
I really liked living from the death of the experience. I wrote a comment, I don't know where it is. It was very late when I thought I posted it. Just listened to the tape of Dr. 🐻's talk with Amy. He mentioned you, said he mIght start a men's group online.
It feels great to hear you liked the article. Yeah, we're bouncing around the idea. The question is, do we have the time?
Really enjoyed reading this, Ryan. I will reread and put key points in my journal. You are a very good writer, which I believe in most cases, is a gift one is born with. I had some co-workers who were constant worriers, I refused to be drawn into their webs of worry. Whenever I was faced with an important decision, I always asked myself "what is the worst that could happen". And guess what....."the worst" NEVER happened! ☺😅💙