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Oct 24Liked by Ryan Delaney

Beautiful post. There's so many times I think I want something and when I am experiencing it, it isn't as glorious as I thought.

Conversely, though, there's plenty of moments where I don't expect to "get" anything and those interactions turn out to be highlights of my day.

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Oct 21Liked by Ryan Delaney

Did you always know you were such a talented writer? Dr.🐻 wrote a tweet yesterday about how he used to be a master-debater. It's getting a lot of laughs. πŸ˜…β˜ΊπŸ’™

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I love your friend's tool, "Living from the death of the experience" and the phrase even more, I might use this as my snapback to reality. I had a great interview yesterday with the position I'm most interested in out of them, but I started to crack near the end lose my cool, calm collectedness and get excited. Had me thinking again all morning about the last job I had ended really badly and it was perfect, had everything I wanted, I thought the people were all great, until it wasn't. I keep having the exact same thing as your friend had with the pretty women. I keep realizing every time I'm excited and so into a new job or a new woman, or a new anything. I don't know if I smother it or what, but my only resolve is to continue to try to train myself to not be excited, which I sitll don't know if it is possible. I'm not really a fatalist but when I look back, all the long lasting things in my life, I usually always felt "meh" about. Hah! Weird. I'm going to try your friend's phrase in my head, failing that I think I'll put a rubber band on my wrist and snap it everytime I get too excited about something from now on.

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Oct 19Liked by Ryan Delaney

Enjoyed this, Ryan. Thanks!

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Oct 19Liked by Ryan Delaney

I just wrote a comment, hope you received it.

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Really enjoyed reading this, Ryan. I will reread and put key points in my journal. You are a very good writer, which I believe in most cases, is a gift one is born with. I had some co-workers who were constant worriers, I refused to be drawn into their webs of worry. Whenever I was faced with an important decision, I always asked myself "what is the worst that could happen". And guess what....."the worst" NEVER happened! β˜ΊπŸ˜…πŸ’™

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