I try to make a lot of deposits in my wife's emotional bank account, and also that listening without trying to fix/solve is a growth edge for me. Thanks for your vulnerability and the reminder.
That's good work, Josh. I admire you for your intention, deposits and ongoing growth. That remains a growth area for me as well. And it's not just men. Apparently, it is for my partner, too.
She recommended online dating to my friend, who is in a horrible place after being dumped by a woman who exhibits extreme borderline personality disorder. When I pushed back, she stopped talking to me.
Great piece, Ryan. You’re right that these deposits matter in all relationships. The building of trust comes from these and trust and integrity are so key in reciprocal, caring relationships. We need these deposits so that when there is a withdrawal, we have enough of a balance to withstand it.
I agree with you 100%. We've all experienced a zero balance - or overdrawn - account while simultaneously being subjected to criticism. That combination leads to fireworks. One alone is bad enough. But combined? Watch out!
Been thinking a lot lately about presence, what I consider our innate value. I'm calling it our humination, which makes me smile when I say it.
Anyway, you're speaking to baseline manifestations of presence with this point, how we are present with our partner and the ledger we keep on that front. It's hard to stay with someone who isn't present, but even harder if they seem actively non-present in the form of emotional overdrafts.
What's crazy-making is how simple the act of presence is when we get out of the way, when we drop our change agendas, and when we get curious. It's a light lift, but so powerful.
I hear what you're saying, my friend. Presence is a priceless gift, isn't it? And it becomes effortless, as you say, once we cut through our conditioning. Plus, it makes life more satisfying.
First of all, I feel like I just got a masterclass in writing a headline. Thank you.
Second, I'm going to be walking around asking myself: am I currently trying to raise relationship capital, or am I seeking more present ways to invest attention in those I love.
I liked the headline of your newest post. It evoked curiosity. By the way, James Clear once said, ‘You should be spending twice as much time crafting your headlines as you currently are.’ My goal is to begin drafting headlines before the publish date.
Thank you. It is always good to have these reminders.
It's as if we can never get enough, right? Thanks, Madom.
I needed to hear this today!!
So glad to hear, Nicole! I love it when that happens - whether I'm giving or receiving.
100%!
Destiny knows.
I try to make a lot of deposits in my wife's emotional bank account, and also that listening without trying to fix/solve is a growth edge for me. Thanks for your vulnerability and the reminder.
That's good work, Josh. I admire you for your intention, deposits and ongoing growth. That remains a growth area for me as well. And it's not just men. Apparently, it is for my partner, too.
She recommended online dating to my friend, who is in a horrible place after being dumped by a woman who exhibits extreme borderline personality disorder. When I pushed back, she stopped talking to me.
Great piece, Ryan. You’re right that these deposits matter in all relationships. The building of trust comes from these and trust and integrity are so key in reciprocal, caring relationships. We need these deposits so that when there is a withdrawal, we have enough of a balance to withstand it.
I agree with you 100%. We've all experienced a zero balance - or overdrawn - account while simultaneously being subjected to criticism. That combination leads to fireworks. One alone is bad enough. But combined? Watch out!
Thanks, Gayle. 🙏🏻
Been thinking a lot lately about presence, what I consider our innate value. I'm calling it our humination, which makes me smile when I say it.
Anyway, you're speaking to baseline manifestations of presence with this point, how we are present with our partner and the ledger we keep on that front. It's hard to stay with someone who isn't present, but even harder if they seem actively non-present in the form of emotional overdrafts.
What's crazy-making is how simple the act of presence is when we get out of the way, when we drop our change agendas, and when we get curious. It's a light lift, but so powerful.
I hear what you're saying, my friend. Presence is a priceless gift, isn't it? And it becomes effortless, as you say, once we cut through our conditioning. Plus, it makes life more satisfying.
First of all, I feel like I just got a masterclass in writing a headline. Thank you.
Second, I'm going to be walking around asking myself: am I currently trying to raise relationship capital, or am I seeking more present ways to invest attention in those I love.
I'm laughing, Kelly. James Clear's headlines are my inspiration.
Your question and intention are inspiring as well. I appreciate you sharing this.
Well, I’m trying one of those headlines with my post tomorrow! 😂
I liked the headline of your newest post. It evoked curiosity. By the way, James Clear once said, ‘You should be spending twice as much time crafting your headlines as you currently are.’ My goal is to begin drafting headlines before the publish date.
Thanks, Ryan! And good reminder about giving the title the time and attention it deserves!